Monday, 29 July 2019

Mayonnaise Jar and Two Beers

This may seem like an odd reading for a wedding. In fact I remember being at a real estate seminar and the speaker there made a point of telling us all to get our priorities straight and used this as an example. However, priorities are priorities - whether it be your work life or your home life. Enjoy.

Mayonnaise jar and two Beers by David Sullivan

“When things in your lives seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two cans of beer from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things–your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions–and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.

The sand is everything else–the small stuff. ‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

‘Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first–the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.’

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented. The professor smiled. ‘I’m glad you asked.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a few beers with a friend.'”

Sunday, 21 July 2019

Weather and the Perfect Relationship

So, yesterday was just a little bit hot. Okay, a lot hot. And I performed 2 wedding ceremonies - one inside, which was so joyous and beautiful and fabulous, and one outside in the blazing heat. We were all melted blobs by the time the ceremony was over, but you know what? It was still perfect. It was about the bride and groom who loved each other. It wasn't a perfect day, but it was still wonderful.

Today I thought I'd post something from ‘When Harry Met Sally’ a movie that proves that even imperfect people can make a perfect relationship.

Saturday, 20 July 2019

Anam Cara

I draw great comfort and inspiration from the writings of John O'Donohue.  In fact, I named my ministry Anam Cara.  This is why.

From "Anam Cara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom".

“When love awakens in your life, in the night of your heart, it is like the dawn breaking within you. Where before there was anonymity, now there is intimacy; where before there was fear, now there is courage; where before in your life there was awkwardness, now there is a rhythm of grace and gracefulness; where before you used to be jagged, now you are elegant and in rhythm with your self. When love awakens in your life, it is like a rebirth, a new beginning.”

I will publish more passages in the coming weeks.